Me and You

My responses to the most common questions / comments left in the guestbook and/or sent to my email.

"You should be ashamed of yourself!"
No, I should not be ashamed of myself, thank you very much. You should be ashamed of yourself for coming into a place that you know is filled with fragile, self-conscious girls and trying to make them feel even worse. Kudos to you, asshole.

"Teach me how to be Ana!" or "I'm fat... make me Ana!" or "Tell me how to get started!"
No. Why the hell would I willingly inflict on you the disorder that nearly killed me?

"Anorexia killed my (insert relation here)! I hope you cry yourself to sleep tonight."
I truly am sorry. No one should ever have to lose anyone to this disorder. But I didn't kill anyone. Your relation is responsible for his/her own actions, not I. And maybe you should take a closer look at what you could have done to help him/her. Maybe, I dunno, paying attention, looking for signs that he/she was restricting or purging, telling a parent or guardian or teacher. I know I saved a friend's life by doing this. So don't blame me for what (1) he/she did to him/herself or (2) your failure to act.

"Why don't you just go eat a sandwich?!"
Gee, why didn't I think of that? Oh yeah... because it's not that freaking easy! If all it took to cure anorexia was a turkey-on-rye, then there wouldn't be girls starving themselves to death across the country right now.

"Boys only like girls with curves!"
You may be right. But who said this was about boys?

"I've been ana for 3 days / weeks and I LUV it!"
If you love it, then it's not Ana. Ana is love and hate wrapped into a burning ball of semi-fulfilling starvation. And medically speaking, you're not considered anorexic until you've lost your period for 3 consecutive months.

"Let the Lord your God heal you..."
Okay, you can believe whatever you want to believe about heaven and hell and faith. Maybe I'm the only who feels this way, but... just don't tell me about it. God and his sudden vanishing act from my life were one of the major causes of the depression that lead to my anorexia. So don't bring Him here.